Why do you blog or spend time on Facebook? For most bloggers, they blog about things they are passionate about. The same thing can be said to people who spend time on Facebook or Twitter. They want to share things that they love with their friends.
But did you know that there are plenty of things that people don’t share on social media?
Mostly because they are afraid that they might be judged, ridiculed, or worse get fired. According to a study done by Pew Research, most of your friends on Facebook won’t share their opinion about a certain topic if they think it’s unpopular. This is a situation called spiral of silence. People are afraid to speak up for fear of isolation.
It’s especially more difficult for bloggers. We have to be more careful of what we say.
Some of the things I don’t talk about on my blog or social media are:
- Feminism – I’ll be downright honest and say that I dislike feminists with a passion. I don’t hate women, and I’m pretty sure I don’t oppress them, but with the typical feminist every single thing you do is a wrong and is a way to objectify, oppress, hurt, or enslave a woman. I just can’t agree with it, but it’s hard to talk about feminism when neuro-linguistically any woman would automatically get behind the word “feminism” (but not necessarily the concept or philosophy behind it), and speaking against it could earn you the ire of half of your friends list.
- Religion – they say that the one thing you can’t talk about at a party or at work is politics and religion. Religion is so close to the heart of so many people, yet so utterly diverse in application that you’re bound to step on toes. Now that it’s fashionable in America to decry Islam, it’s become even harder to talk about it.
- The Muslim Refugee Crisis in Europe and in Asia – this is one of my pet peeves in current events. But with no solution in sight, thousands of lives in the balance, the War on Isis and the potential destruction of the European Union and potentially the collapse of our world economy, the stakes are far too high to be covered by the likes of myself.
- Homosexuality – I’m not gay, but a lot of my friends are. I often feel like writing about homosexuality might degrade or place labels on them, or worse cause them to look down on me as a bigot.
- Racism – this is a very touchy subject. We like people to think that we’re perfect, good human beings, so we avoid topics where having an opinion one way or another could paint a darker side of you from another person’s point of view. But people aren’t perfect, and even if you aren’t outright racist, it’s impossible not to have some concepts of aesthetics and proper behavior being shaped by the culture you are in.
Strangely enough, even though I find it difficult to share about these things on my social media accounts, I read up on them all the time and end up discussing these things on forums and in the comments sections of different articles tackling them, using my personal DISQUS account. For some reason it’s okay in my mind to talk about them on someone else’s blog, with my real name, but it’s not okay to talk about it on my own blog, or my own social media account. It might just be a mental block of some sort, but I’d like to think that it’s okay to have your own stand on these issues and still be a respectable human being.
The team behind the social app, Veems, has felt that many people share on social media but only topics that they think are safe or fit the status quo. While this is good, there are topics or questions in life that we must explore with other human beings. The Internet and social media are supposed to be places where we can explore our ideas freely in the first place.
Here’s a video that perfectly captures the thoughts of people who would like to talk about some serious topics on social media:
If you’re an extrovert who have very strong opinions or an introvert who just love to ponder on the important questions in life, here’s why Veems is a good social app for you:
- Share a public status privately. Just like on Facebook and Twitter, you can share what’s on your mind to your followers. But instead of just posting it on your timeline, the status is sent as a private message. It becomes more personal and you don’t have to comment, “will PM you” if you want to take the conversation privately.
- Because when someone replies to your message, only you will see it. This puts you in control of the conversation that you started.
- Join public chat on Veems like the Anonymous. Iddo Goren, Veems CEO, started the Anonymous public chat to help people share their ideas and emotions more freely. There are topics and certain experiences that we go through daily that we just can’t share on Facebook. The Anonymous public chat is a sure hit–with almost 5 million messages sent in a given day. Users have talked about different topics from the struggles in school to sex, parenting, religion, and relationships.
Have you ever been scared on sharing your opinion on your social media?